Live Simply, Love Deeply, and Reach Your Goals

I was asked recently what my major plans in life were. My go-to response, of course, was to build my savings, finish my degree, buy a house, make enough money to provide my child with every opportunity. These are all good, respectable things but, as I sat pondering later that day (as I usually do), I realized that these were goals I had for myself and there were so much more I wanted out of life. My primary focus, and what motivates my every decision, since my daughter was born has become what kind of person am I; what kind of role model is she going to be looking to for the rest of her life? With that in mind, I have had to refocus, rethink and reprioritize. I figured out that there were three things I wanted that were fundamental to the kind of person I am and the kind of life I want to build for both myself and my daughter: live simply, love deeply and reach my goals.


I have always been an over-thinker, an over-worrier, with thoughts that were so complicated that I had a…

Being a Better Me

I have talked a little in my previous blogs about my disregard for long term consequences before I became a mom. I cannot emphasize enough how deeply that disregard ran and I am amazed each day as I wake up a mom at how much I have changed. It is really true that a child changes everything. The moment I found out I was pregnant it was kind of like my life flashed before my eyes. Every selfish moment I had where I did things because I wanted to, consequences be damned, came flooding to my mind followed, of course, by the shitty consequences I had to deal with. I knew in that moment, before I even left the hospital, that I had to leave behind the person who didn’t care what she suffered as long as she got what she wanted when she wanted it.
This started a long journey of facing the reality of the kind of woman that I had been up to this point in my life. I had to look into the mirror (metaphorically speaking and I avoided that metaphorical mirror at all costs) and own up to the fact tha…

Moms of Value

Life before kids isn’t always thought out in a manner that gives regards to what will need to happen once
children arrive. Having thought that I would never had a child, I spent my time as a motherless woman
giving no thought to how my choices could affect my future or the future of my child. I live sometimes
recklessly and at other times ignorant. So long as I could survive from day to day I didn’t place value in
the correct things, like education and career. As I reached my thirties, this began to change. I still didn’t plan on having a child but I wanted a little more
cash in my pocket and a nice framed little piece of paper on my wall that said that I had accomplished
something. Unfortunately, by the time I pulled my head out of my ass I was too late to take back the ill
made choices of my past or to avoid having to pay the consequences for them. I enrolled in school and have been working on my degree for way too many years. However, despite my
endless list of qualifications, I cou…